When Your Loss is Magnified: Managing Grief During the Holidays
Grief is a natural response to loss, but it can feel anything but natural when you’re going through it. Whether it’s the loss of a loved one, a relationship, or a significant life change, grief can touch every part of your well-being – emotional, physical, and mental. It’s important to remember that grief looks different for everyone, and there’s no right or wrong way to experience it.
Grief doesn’t take a break for the holidays. In fact, it can feel even more present amidst the season’s traditions and celebrations. While nothing can change the loss you’ve experienced, being intentional about how you will spend your time during the holidays can be a strategy that can help you get through, and even enjoy, this time of year.
Strategies to Cope with Grief During the Holidays
Plan ahead. Be realistic with your schedule. Social gatherings can be a drain on your energy, even in the best of times. When we are grieving, we are usually running on lower energy reserves, so look for a balance in your commitments. Too many engagements can lead to exhaustion; too few can lead to isolation.
Scale back. It’s okay to do less and simplify daily life. Takeout meals can help and fewer decorations will still provide holiday decor. Allow yourself to enjoy the ease of less fuss.
Create new traditions. Put the adage “A change is as good a rest” to work for you. Go somewhere new. Reach out to someone with whom you’ve lost touch. Volunteer in a loved one’s name and discover the satisfaction of helping others.
Take time for self-care. Think about ways to take care of yourself–physically and mentally–then do 1 thing each day to put self-care into action. Get some fresh air and exercise. Eat real, whole foods and drink plenty of water. Call a friend. Prioritize good sleep habits. Support groups, meditation, prayer, and therapy are options that can be invaluable as grief is felt more deeply over the holidays.
Seek grief support. There are so many resources available today for grief support. An on-line search can help you find the kind that aligns with you, your personality, and your needs. You’ll find on-line counselors and support groups that meet virtually. Inquire at your church or synagogue for one-on-one counseling or for an active support group that meets regularly. Ask friends for references for a therapist near you.
Grief Counseling at Restore Counseling Services
When grief arrives, it can feel like we are in unchartered and stormy waters. At Restore Counseling Services, we believe that no one should navigate grief alone. Our goal is to provide a compassionate space where you can process your feelings, find comfort, and discover pathways to healing. Grief doesn’t leave us, but it does change over time. Whatever stage of grief you’re in, we’re here to walk alongside you on this journey.
Restore Counseling Services has office locations in Denver and Ephrata, PA. Call us today at 717-824-2364 to schedule an appointment.